The Top Ten Secrets For Great Sex!
June 18, 2008
Clearly there are no rules, only what lovers have known since Antony and Cleopatra: “Pay attention, be kind, and be loving”. But the following Top Ten List might be a useful reminder! Enjoy!
1. Guys: Great sex starts in the kitchen! Wash the dishes, take out the trash, give her a break, let her know she’s appreciated. Romance and exhaustion do not mix — think about it! (Besides, standing there, side by side, washing and drying those dishes, hands could get to roamin’ and motors could get to tickin’ …the most amazing things do happen!)
2. Gals: Tell that old fool just exactly what you’ve been waiting for! Most males are notoriously poor mind readers, they just don’t “get it”. So tell him! “A little softer” or “let me show you” goes much further than, “How come you never know what I want?”
3. Guys: Take time! Sex is about fun, relaxation, laughter and love — this is not a competition or a 50-yard dash to the finish line! Start slow, let it build, then finish strong. A glass of wine, maybe some music, a backrub, even a few minutes of silence can shift the mood and make things verrrry interesting!!
Whose Moral Values Are They Anyway?
May 16, 2008
First there was the sight of Janet Jackson’s pastie-adorned breast at the Superbowl, then Nicollet Sheridan’s towel-dropping scene on Monday Night Football. A public outcry followed, deploring the obsessively sexual orientation of advertising, entertainment, and the media as a whole.
As the debates rage, a core question must arise: if sex is known to sell anything, who is doing the buying?
Public Relations and marketing gurus give the public what they crave. If they don’t, they are out of a job. How many new viewers will Desperate Housewives gain because of the uproar over their ad? Thousands? A million or two? And who enjoyed the gratuitous nudity? Those who “missed it” on Monday Night Football were able to indulge their curiosity as the tape was replayed and replayed ad nauseum. Who in America has not seen it by now? Surely only the sightless and the occasional hermit could have missed it.
So what does that say about the current state of U.S. morality? We are not all depraved, immoral, addicted to pornography, nor necessarily in favor of public sexual displays. We are simply curious people who are still in a reaction phase to a long history of sexual repression. After the strait jacket of the puritan period and the social constraints of the following 300 years, the pendulum is swinging as it always has. It makes a wide arc until slowly returning to the center.
Your Sexual Health is Super-Charged by the Natural Medicine of Humor
April 14, 2008
Giovanni Casanova (1725-1798) was an Italian adventurer, writer, soldier, musician, spy, and diplomat. Those accomplishments, however, have been historically overshadowed by Casanova’s reputation as a freewheeling sensualist. The term “Casanova” has come to represent a person of great sexual ability and indulgence.
The feeling that he wasn’t a “Casanova” and the thought that he should be, was what motivated Paul to seek my help. He was worried that he was letting his partner down sexually. Paul’s problem was not unique and it had an understandably common effect on his self-esteem and self-worth. Humans are sexual creatures, by nature, and the inability to enjoy healthy, appropriate sexual activity and/or sexual desire weighs heavily upon our holistic health and well-being.
When you are unable to enjoy appropriate sexual activity, your mind, body, and spirit feel off kilter because of your inherent sexual nature. You were born to have fun - and sex plays a large role in that. You deserve to have a regular, healthy expression of your sexual nature. It is fun and doesn’t need to harm or impose on anyone else.
Why You have the Right to Choose to Think
March 10, 2008
Sexuality is a fundamental part of being human and alive. It is powerful, even in its distortion it carves our lives in the same way that flowing water engraves the planet. As we struggle to harness hydropower for its best use, so it is with our sexuality (in the best cases). This is not a result of some philosophical hiatus; it is the effect of day-to-day choices. So is it really so arduous to accept that thinking humans should view their choices around sexuality in a larger context?
Take honor for instance. Honor and its sister Integrity are issues normally presented as side dishes on the buffet of religious dogma, untimely asides to the cornucopia associated with sexual bliss. I often wonder why this happens. Am I the only one who feels these issues are essential to an individual really being attractive enough to be considered sexy? To me, this means going beyond the (dehumanizing) objectification of persons towards (humanizing) evaluation, to place "sexiness" in a holistic framework. How can the presence or absence of the substances which make us really human be regarded as "irrelevant"?
Adult Halloween Costumes for Mature Trick or Treating!
February 7, 2008
Getting the kids dressed up for Halloween can be a highlight of the autumn season. Dressing up in costume has been a tradition for many cultures of the world for a variety of reasons. But it’s not just for the children anymore.
There are many reasons for adults to enjoy the fun of dressing up in their own costumes. Take Mardi Gras, for example. Participants spend all year creating an alternative identity. They will frolic in the streets in celebration of the coming of spring, or to enjoy the free flowing kegs and endless parades.
Another traditional costume party event is the masquerade ball. Lost in time, this gala created a flirtatious evening for the high society with a kiss-and-don’t-tell theme.
Today’s costume parties are probably a little closer to either the Mardi Gras or Halloween celebrations. It is fun to dress in costume, while assuming a surrogate self. Participants can do things they wouldn’t ordinarily try to get away with.
You may wonder how you are going to acquire the right costume attire for your occasion. You may choose the retail route, or decide to create your own if you have the ability.
Orgasm & Early Ejaculations - Sex is a Serious Thing!
January 4, 2008
Most of the questions asked to sexual health experts are about men’s early ejaculations and women’s orgasm troubles. When you read this you may say: It’s normal, if man is coming off quickly, woman couldn’t have an orgasm! But if you really think for a few seconds, surprisingly, you won’t see any relation between these two events. Because, a man if he is not a boor, will prepare his woman to reach her orgasm before his ejaculation.
The other highly popular question is about the penis size! After all that porn movies many people are really confused. How and where to find such a prominent organ? What is the normal size? How thick and long can be the biggest? How small is acceptable for lovemaking?
Every man’s genital is different as his finger print and the role of the penis size in a happy and successful sexual relationship is not such important. At least you don’t have to be such stupid to pay sack full money to programs, drugs or advice for making it bigger! Even with a huge organ a man’s chance is very limited to make her achieve an orgasm if he is not a good lover and doesn’t know proper sex techniques, most probably he will cause pain instead of pleasure.
Why Men Worship Lingerie, and The Qualms We Have With Lingerie Stores
December 3, 2007
I must first present the disclaimer: as only one man, I cannot, and will not, speak for the rest of my gender. I can only present my side of the story and the details and ideas I have personally acquired throughout my short yet informative and experienced mature life.
From a time I can barely recall, lingerie has been a dear part of my heart. At that certain point in a man’s premature teenage years, he begins to take notice of the opposite gender. Much of this takes place in anything he can get his hands on: department store catalogs, an uncle’s pornographic magazine collection, and most recently, I suppose the internet.
My memories take me back to a tree fort belonging to the boys of the neighborhood. We spent many long summers building and perfecting the gathering place where we would share the freshest contraband we could somehow acquire. Probably not too far a stretch from most ordinary boys and their neighborhood pals.
My college years were not too different. Living with male roommates, there was no shortage of adult magazines to flip through while watching another rerun of "The Simpsons." These porno mags seemed central to all bathroom reading material belonging to most male inhabited apartments or houses I had the pleasure of stepping into.
Sex Without Intimacy and Intimacy Without Sex
November 1, 2007
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Excerpt From The Relationship Handbook: How to Understand and Improve Every Relationship in Your Life by Kevin B. Burk
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We no longer feel the social pressure to confine sex to committed relationships. In fact, we’re free to explore our sexuality with just about anyone we like. Sex is now an accepted recreational activity. What we often don’t realize, however, is that even casual, recreational sex still involves intimacy. We may have overcome our fear and shame about sex, but many of us still have issues regarding intimacy. If we experience more intimacy than we can handle, we will feel threatened; our safety checklist will be triggered. No matter how “safe” we make sex, sex may not be safe to us.
When we experience an orgasm, we reveal ourselves more completely and more honestly than at any other time. We let our egos die for a moment, and we have the chance to experience a true connection with another person. Then the ego comes back into the picture, and we’re hit with the fear of separation, and all of our old patterns. If we don’t have enough trust or enough safety, we will feel threatened, guilty, and generally unsafe. No matter how much society’s beliefs about sex have evolved in our lifetime, our core conditioning tells us that there’s no such thing as no-strings sex. We still equate sex with love, and love with commitment. And we equate love and commitment with vulnerability, responsibility, and the fear that our needs will not be met.
What Turns Them On?
September 28, 2007
People make 90% of their opinion about us in the first 4 minutes.
Physical desirability is determined in the first 10 seconds.
You do not have to look like the latest Hollywood hunk or runway supermodel to be attractive to the opposite sex. By understanding why and how people are attracted to you and employing these strategies you can easily have them looking your way.
Gender signals operate on a subconscious level. Which has been passed on by are ancestors. Do men perceive beauty over personality and intelligence? Flowers have beautiful colors to be attractive in a deep forest. They let you know about their condition this way. It is the same for human attraction. A man is attracted to a woman when she shows the possibility of him passing on his genes. An attractive man for a woman is usually one who can provide food and safety. Looks are not always a number one priority for woman but rather a sense of security. They are usually attracted to older men because of this.
What turns men on the most?
Goddess Seeks God
August 27, 2007
She sighs as a flute, softly emitting silver echoes of her rapture. This is the sacred song of a female, a woman, whose fragrance is rising to the mind, where petals fold back, releasing a white-gold energy into infinity.
The rushing of the red transforms through the heart to higher thought, where sexual feelings become Goddess and God fused. They exchange their buds of desire, mouth to mouth. The membrane of self-protection splits, and the fluids of love rush out with delight. They possess.
The cries of divine utterance settle to frail weeping, as a rose who has received a full shower of dew. In the pleasant half sleep that follows, she cannot completely realize that she has partaken of the Goddess. She was, for a moment of time, a Goddess. Did she not leave her mortal body and flee to the habitation of spirits? Was she also spirit? Then is she not Goddess? Why did she return to earthly flesh after drinking with him? Perhaps, as two serpents of love they weave and dance around each other, until their heads and eyes see as one. Their fangs pass on to each other the venom of ecstasy, and they reach across the limitless space in a blurred dream. Therefore, in this life they are able to touch briefly the Goddess and God they are and glimpse what they might be if they awaken.
